Bitching and Whining
I have been hearing just recently about people bitching and whining about their Mini club, other clubs and members within those clubs. I feel bound to write something about this as it is creating a big fuss within the Mini and MINI communities.
First up, remember why we belong to a Mini Club.
Because we love Minis and MINIS.
Now, some people say that there are far too many Mini Clubs. I disagree. The more clubs there are then the more it shows that we care about our cars. Some clubs are national (BMC, MCR etc), some are for an area (P&SMOC for example), some support a specific model (The Clubman Estate Register etc) while others are started due to disagreements, personality clashes, changes of interest or many other reasons. The reasons are not important.
What is important is that Clubs get along. We exist to support each other, the car and the members. If there’s inter-club arguing it does nobody (in the whole community) any good. I know of two clubs “oop North” that “hate” each other - simply due to petty squabbles between members.
I also understand that for the same reasons new clubs start, members change clubs. Of course, this is your decision and you are quite free to do so. However. Rather than join the new club and bad-mouth the one you’ve just left, how about being mature and discuss the problem with the team that runs the club. I know some clubs say they have no “Committee” but certainly there is nearly always a natural leader that shines through that people will look to for answers.
I have been talking to the “management” of a couple of clubs just recently and we all agree that petty squabbles between members should be utterly ignored for the greater good. There is a limit to that of course. I banned someone from a forum today. The person concerned was heard at a meet bad-mouthing one club (having just joined another) and was trying to poach members for their new club. This, in the eyes of everybody that I have mentioned it to (with just as much detail as you read in the previous sentence) have agreed that this is entirely unacceptable behaviour and will not be tolerated by anybody.
So, please can everybody in every club treat people with a little respect and dignity?
If you love your club, tell the world (like we all do anyway!). If you don’t love your club or have a huge problem then talk to the club and perhaps the problem can be resolved. If you still feel you want to join another club, please do so, but don’t bitch about the old club in public (including forums, blogs and in person) or you will find you will be ridiculed in no uncertain terms.
Collin is A former chairman of Portsmouth and Southampton Mini Owners' Club, certified Mini Loon, and not all that knowledgeable. He writes these articles purely for enjoyment and currently gets no recompense for all his sterling work. Maybe one day his efforts will be rewarded either financially or sexually. If you see anything wrong in any post, please leave a comment on the post or use the contact form link below.
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July 10th, 2008 at 8:25 am
Colin i couldn’t agree more mate, you have hit the nail on the head
July 23rd, 2008 at 12:26 am
Hi.
Firstly I would like to say why are you posting rubbish like this, when you know its not true.
You seem to be taking it out on my husband and he did nothing wrong.
We both left pandsmoc because of members ignoring us you included.
Am I right in saying you got pretty upset over the grey cooper I brought, the one you wanted, sorry but it was first come, first serve.
I think its pathetic that you fell out with my husband over my car, like I said he did nothing wrong, and as for him poaching members of pandsmoc, that is a load of rubbish, you really need to take a closer look at your members, it was charminbear who sent us an email, saying they had left your club and asked us to join another club, now I have noticed they are back in your club.When she was at the club we are with now, all she did was bitch about your club, and I have proof in black and white.
Why did you ban my husband, is it because he put the pictures of my cooper on the forum, and you got very jelious.
I did’nt think you were the chairman or on the committee anymore, the way you talk, as if it is your club, but reality you are a nobody.
Also if you are banning him from the forum, why not delete his account altogether.
We was happy at pandsmoc, until you started throwing your toys out of your pram, because you did’nt get my car.
Well, we both know what you are really like now, and we are very happy with our new club, and would never want to join pandsmoc ever again.
There are some nice people in pandsmoc, who we will continue to speak to.
One other thing if you had a problem with my husband, at least have the balls to tell him to his face, he wrote on the forum exactly the way he felt, so why did’nt you speak to him first before banning him, what are you a man or a mouse??????
Goodbye